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Dear Graduates,

Dear Graduates,

Dear Graduates,

It is so refreshing to see your newly decorated caps and gowns, photos on the quad and smiling announcements on social media. Whether from high school, college or graduate school, graduation often symbolizes new beginnings and bright futures. However, I also remember a fair share of anxiety around these milestone moments. As we prepare to honor our graduating seniors at Floris United Methodist Church Sunday, June 4, I want to take a minute to address some of the stress and anxiety that so many experience.

Our culture tends to always focus on tomorrow. “What’s next?” “Where are you going?” “What are you doing with your life?” This is true of almost any phase, but I can think of no worse time than high school and college for these piercing questions. “Have you chosen your major yet?” “Which college will you go to?” “Are you sure you want to go to a liberal arts school?” “What is your career track?” “Do you have an internship lined up?”

I wish I could tell you that this anxiety-producing conversational style would end after college, but it doesn’t. Instead, the questions simply shift a little. “When are you going to settle down?” “Why are you still renting?” “Why aren’t you married?” “You know, you are getting a little old. Aren’t you worried you won’t be able to have children?” People get in such a frenzy over other people’s tomorrows that they barely let you enjoy today.

When I was in high school, I hadn’t really figured out my future, and this seriously stressed me out. As it turns out, I never really mastered predicting the future, which tells me fortune telling is probably not in my life plan. This is still disappointing. Even in college I had no idea that my chosen career path in education would later come to a screeching halt so I could pursue worship leadership. Slightly older Megan still had no idea what she was doing, and I’m pretty sure I can say the same about my present self.

I see this as a common worry amongst my younger musicians as they fumble about, trying on different titles to see how they feel. Psychologist? Doctor? Musician? Dog walker? CIA operative? However, I’d encourage you to relax a little. It’s okay. You’re going to be okay. Choosing the wrong school or major freshman year will not ruin your life. It’s important to do work, make plans and be responsible, but there is no eleventh commandment that states, “Thou shalt get your life together by eighteen and map out a plan for your entire future by twenty-two.” Honestly I don’t even think it’s possible to have your entire life planned even by forty-two or fifty-two. My experience has taught me that God’s will and call on my life might morph and change over time. What is appropriate for me now might not be where God leads me a year from now.

God does not call us to have the perfect plan. Rather, God calls us to abide in him. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and love each other. Those are the most important commandments. The right career path will reveal itself to you, but often it is easier to discern God’s calling in your life when you are truly in relationship with God. When you start to feel overwhelmed with applications, deadlines and an uncertain future, take a minute and return to God’s word. Abide in him and carve out time for prayer and meditation. You never know what door God might open or what answer might be provided in the quiet stillness of prayer or while diving into a Bible study.

It’s also important during this stressful time that you remember God’s call to love others. Kindness and generosity are forgotten relics when we become hyper-focused on accomplishing our next task or getting from point A to point B. When you’re considering blowing off your family gathering because you need one more hour to study, don’t. Give yourself a break and actually spend time with your loved ones.

For those of you in high school, you might soon be leaving your childhood home forever. You will revisit, but it will never feel the same as it does right now. Some day you’ll miss waking up to breakfast on the weekends or late night chats with your sister. That annoying brother will not have as many opportunities to poke fun at you again, and you’ll even miss the “Dad jokes.” Hug your mom a few extra times and help your sibling with their homework. This time is precious.

For those of you leaving college, there will never be another time like this in your entire life. Embrace your friends, laugh all night and soak in the experiences. Spend some time lounging on the quad and barbecuing with neighbors on their tiny, beat-up grill with cheap frozen hamburger patties you bought by scamming off your parents’ Costco membership. If you are too focused on what’s next, you’ll miss out on the beauty of this special moment.

So go forth, my darling little graduates. Like so many others in your life, I’m overwhelmingly excited for what the future holds for you. However, I’m just as excited for the experiences you are capturing right now. Hold on to them, enjoy them and forget about tomorrow for a minute so you can truly appreciate today.

Sincerely,
An old(er) person who gets called “ma’am” occasionally

About Megan Gumabay

Megan is the contemporary worship leader at Floris UMC. Prior to taking on this role, she spent eight years teaching fifth and sixth grade in Fairfax County. Megan is a JMU alum, and she has a passion for exploring, learning and helping people connect with God through worship. She lives in Reston, Va. with her husband, Albert, two stepchildren, a highly-opinionated cat and two fish named Carl and Blanche.

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